hehehe i haven’t paid for lunch at work since last monday
it pays to be an admin y’all
I swear to god, if I see one more “ew, het” post about a ship involving a WoC and a white dude (who fandom usually ships with another white dude), I’m going to set something on fire.
…yeah, on second thought, I hate the ‘ew, het’ thing about (almost) any pairing.
'Cos you know what's revolutionary? treating women - especially WoC - like people, with agency, where they can have sex - or not - as they choose without it being a cause for judgement on her character.
Het that subverts gender roles (without treating it like a joke) is revolutionary.
Het that doesn’t follow the formula - you know the one - is revolutionary.
Het that doesn’t turn the woman into an idiot, or a simpering plot device, or a damsel, or a whore, or a bitch, or a villain, or a rarely-seen ‘no gay shit’ smokescreen, or a victim for the hero’s manpain… that’s revolutionary.
Het with non-cis characters. Het between PoC.
Poly het. Ace heteromanticism. Aro heterosexuality.
Het isn’t inherently ‘less subversive’ than queer narratives, because sometimes queer people can be in relationships that look like het. And there are a shit ton of other factors than “M+F” involved in real “het” relationships that media rarely - if ever - shows us.
I’m not saying that we don’t need more queer narratives. I WANT THOSE TOO. Ones that aren’t the Tragic Queer trope, or where bisexuality isn’t a dog whistle foreshadowing betrayal. Or etc.
My point is: this isn’t about “queer narratives versus het narratives.” This shit is intersectional - race, class, gender, dis/ability, etc all factor in.
But when I see discussions flattening the discussion into a single story - an either-or dichotomy where it’s implied that shipping a het pairing (esp one that does break the media mold in one way or another) is somehow ‘boring’ or ‘unimaginative’ or whatever… Then yeah, I’m gonna be a little mad.
'Cos 'diverse representation in the media' is way bigger than just our white dudeslash ships.
Heterosexuality is a life-creator. Heterosexuality is love. Heterosexuality is orgasms. Heterosexuality is cuddles and kisses. Heterosexuality is seeing your face and the face of your beloved become one in someone new. Heterosexuality is great works of art. Heterosexuality is beautiful love songs, from the opera to the opry. Heterosexuality is the dignified waning strength of an elderly man helping his wife to her feet. Heterosexuality is the look middle aged parents exchange as they watch their child walk down the aisle.
i wish i could ignore emails on the basis of “no, you’re stupid and don’t deserve a response.”
(remember entitled med student guy who thought he got to dictate the time of a call with a vp/physician? he emailed me saturday to say “okay, i’ll call at 9:00am on monday.” haha, no you won’t, because i’m not working on saturday and therefore wasn’t able to add it to his calendar, and if there’s nothing on his calendar, he has no reason to be physically in the office first thing on a monday morning. sux for you.)
Kristin’s Salted Caramel Skillet Cookie /recipe
I just remember the excel spreadsheet you posted documenting the contents of your closet and being like O.O
oh yeah!! i need to finish that. the purpose is to keep track of what i’m wearing and how often :)
yesssssssss. tho (apparently) surprisingly, my wardrobe is not all that organized. i should fix that to maintain this image.
OMGGGGGG this is 100% perfect and going on my about page
omg no one told me louie lastik from remember the titans was in my name is earl
Netflix is forever recommending me ~forbidden romance~ and I’m just like, I think you missed an important detail here
netflix and goodreads should like, let you check off keywords when you rate a movie/book and factor that in. they’re so hilariously off sometimes.